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Tips for pursuing a divorce with a resistant spouse

On Behalf of | Feb 8, 2022 | Divorce

Although divorces always involve both spouses, situations may occur where one spouse does not necessarily want the marriage to end. This can lead to many difficulties in the divorce process and, in some cases, may result in a more adversarial breakup. Here are some tips for would-be divorcees in Maryland looking to pursue a divorce with a partner who is resistant to ending the marriage:

Be clear

It is important not to leave any ambiguity when asking for a divorce from a resistant partner. Simply put, it can be difficult to find a resolution when the other party is hopeful for some sort of reconciliation. Those who are unsure themselves should carefully consider their options and ensure a divorce is what they want before broaching the subject. This way, they can be prepared with a final decision when they speak with their partner.

Be compassionate

Finding out one’s spouse wants a divorce can be painful, but it is certainly made more difficult if feelings are not taking into consideration in the delivery of this news. Although it is critical to be clear about intentions, it is equally important to avoid being hurtful in raising this very sensitive issue. Communicating through legal counsel can help to make certain conversations less emotionally fraught.

Be prepared

If the other spouse is blindsided, they will undoubtedly have questions about why a divorce being requested. It is a good idea to be prepared with an answer to these inevitable questions that, again, is both compassionate and to the point.

Resistance can come in many different forms. In some cases, the other spouse is resistant to the idea of divorce itself. In other situations, it may be certain details of the divorce such as the dissolution of a family business or the selling of a family home that could result in pushback. Regardless of what kind of resistance is taking place, being clear, compassionate, and prepared can make a difference in how easily a resolution is found. One of the most important preparations is finding a Maryland family lawyer whose values and experience matches one’s own goals in their divorce.